A Chance Introduction to a Fascinating Family - The Coopers

A family who came to Benfleet just after the Edwardian Era

I first met Stanley Cooper in the late 1980s at a Tai Chi class at Rochford Community Centre. At that time he was around eighty-four years old,  lively, humorous, outgoing and full of intelligent conversation. We got chatting over the following weeks, and it transpired that he lived quite close to me. He was obviously quite a character; he invited me for coffee, and so began a dozen years of close friendship.

His interests were varied and far ranging. He was a great naturalist, ecologist and conservationist and an active member in the Castle Point Branch of the Essex Wildlife Trust.  I remember delivering the Essex Wildlife magazines with him, in his cream coloured 1960s VW Transporter, which was a familiar sight locally. Stanley lived on family land behind his brother, Harold Cooper’s bungalow, ‘Birchlea’ which was situated down a private road in Badgers Way. Stanley had bought himself a 1920s railway carriage when he was coming up for retirement in the 1960s, which was delivered by rail to Rayleigh Station, and thence by road, (heaven knows how!) to Badgers Way. This served as a comfortable living room, kitchen, and utility room, while he slept in his camper van in the car port behind it. He had a composting toilet, always full of clean fresh hay.

Stanley had a keen interest in Naturopathy, Yoga, and the eastern disciplines, together with Theosophy and the esoteric. He told me that when he borrowed books from Hadleigh Library, he always returned them with notes interleaved inside, and through this method met several like minded souls who became friends. He had an eclectic mix of friends, – potters, artists, dancers and writers among them.

His parents had moved to the area in the 1920s, and had bought several acres of land, (including where Badgers Way and Malyons now stand) running back from the Kiln Road to Shipwrights Wood. His father, John Albert Cooper, had owned a jewellers shop in Wanstead, East London, but was interested in dabbling in the smallholding world. For a time they kept pigs and sheep on their land. The family were of Huguenot extraction. In the 1930s, Stanley’s mother, Florence, was the Postmistress at  Kiln Road Post Office while his father ran the attached General Stores. Stanley was a carpenter by trade, and worked on many local projects including the parade of shops in Hadleigh High Street. In 1923 he and his father put in building alteration plans (Seax D/UBe 2/1/190 refers) for the Kiln Road Shop, to bridge the gap between two buildings. This created that distinctive frontage with the small upper bay window that is still there today in the house that was the old Post Office/General Stores.

Towards his retirement in the 1960s, Stanley taught carpentry at Southend Technical College. By 1961, both his parents had died, and the brothers sold the shop and post office in Kiln Road, together with some of the land, keeping five acres.

In the mid 1990s, when Stanley was building a fence for me, I remember being horrified when he drove his VW Transporter straight into the lorry entrance at the old Benfleet Woodyard opposite the Junior School to buy wood. There were fork-lifts operating, and flat-bed lorries in and out, and I just shut my eyes. He was perfectly at home. The staff there knew and respected him, and we bought the supplies and off we went.

Stanley had four brothers – Jack, the eldest,  (who had died in 1984), Harold, Eric and Bernard – and a sister, Florence, who sadly died at the age of fifty. She had a seizure while driving down Bread & Cheese Hill. That is all I know about the accident, which must have absolutely rocked the family.

Eric and his wife Mona, and daughter Cheryl, lived at Glen Rosa opposite the Council Offices (the house is still there, bearing the same name). Mona started the San Toy School of Dancing, which still exists. Bernard, a retired Civil Servant, and his wife Winifred, ‘Winnie’,  lived ‘down the hill’ in ‘Glen Tane’,  a detached chalet bungalow at number 22 Manor Road (which has since been made into a house). Winnie was ‘quite a girl’ in the 1920s; she drove a car, (which was unusual for a woman in those days) and was a leading light in the local tennis club. I came to know Bernard very well as he shared Stanley’s interest in wildlife, and regularly went up to ‘the land’ to feed the birds and help Stanley with any tree-work. He fed several tame Robins from his hand. Bernard was a keen gardener, and always had a selection of planters outside No. 22 filled with colourful bedding plants which he grew from seed in his greenhouse. When the sweet smelling white Alyssum had gone over, he saved it, dried it, and took armfuls of it up to leave at the mouth of the badger setts for their bedding. They obviously appreciated it, as it would all be gone by the next morning.  He was also President of the local Institute of Advanced Motoring, and encouraged me to take the course and pass the test. Bernard used to put his old black labrador, Bruno, in his car and drive up to visit Stanley, and walk the dog through their land to Thundersley Glen. It amused him greatly to be hailed as ‘Moses’ by the local dog walkers with whom he became friendly. Indeed, I could see the resemblance – as, in common with all the male members of the Cooper family, he had aquiline features, collar length flowing white locks and used  a walking staff! He was a familiar figure in the Glen in the 1990s.

Stanley’s memories were of a very different Kiln Road. There very few cars in the 1920s, and most people had a pony and trap. There were several tiny shacks in Kiln road. He remembered noticing newspaper had been used to paper the walls. Stanley remembered charabanc outings to Southend on high days and holidays. He also told me that when he was a young man, one could walk through the Glen and down to Benfleet Creek through woodland footpaths. The brothers also regularly walked through ‘Forty Acres’, part of which forms Woodside Park now. As children Bernard and Stanley famously tried to row a tin bath across the pond at Forty Acres. It sank, of course, and two very muddy boys dripped their way home where a telling-off awaited them.  I remember Stanley recounting with glee that Bernard, as a teenager, crept home late one night from a tryst with a girlfriend. Shoes in hand, he climbed through a window, trod on a large slug in his stockinged feet and skidded the entire length of the floorboards. He crashed into a china laden dresser and woke the entire household.

The Coopers’ family doctor, whose name escapes me, lived in a red brick house at Victoria House Corner. The Coopers were friendly with a family in ‘Hazlewood House’ in Kiln Road. I remember in the 1990s Bernard had some correspondence with a member of the family who had lived there and emigrated to Canada, and who had taken some aerial photographs of the area. Stanley also mentioned knowing the family at ‘Hallamshire’ in Kiln Road. They also knew the Mummeries, who owned the plant nursery where Ashcroft Place now stands.

Harold Cooper was a keen amateur photographer, and took several of the black and white photographs in this article.  He was a widower by the time I met Stanley, his wife Adelaide having died some years before. He lived with his grandson Glen in Birchlea. Harold’s son, Laurie had moved up north. When Harold’s bungalow, ‘Birchlea’ was built in the 1930s, it was registered as being ‘off Kiln Road’, in the middle of his father’s land.

It was on Stanley’s land that I saw my first glow worm, and my first badger, and he introduced me to the bluebells in Shipwright’s Wood. Stanley used to feed the badgers with dog food and they came up to his house each evening. There were a variety of birds in his woodland including Tree Creepers, Great and Lesser Spotted Woodpeckers, Cuckoos, Robins, Hedge Sparrows, Jays and Nightingales. The squirrels were a nuisance, stealing the bird food from the feeders Stanley strung up in the large Hornbeam bush outside his windows. He devised an ingenious ‘hat’ for the feeders, which deterred most of them.

I remember the various habitats on his land, which sloped gently down from the flat clearing where he had placed his railway carriage. Here there was an old coppiced Birch with three main branches beside a natural dew pond. The slope began after a patch of garden, culminating in a quite marshy area where the family land joined Shipwrights Wood via a private gate. Here, only Equisetum would grow. At the top, it was a lighter, more sandy soil, and when he had helped his brother Harold build ‘Birchlea’ in the 1930s, they dug a well here, bricking up the sides as they went. The trees were all natives, – Aspen, Sycamore, Birch, Hawthorn, Hornbeam, and there were wild roses.

I look back on these years with a great deal of fondness, they really were halcyon days. They were delightful people, and, it seemed, the last summer breath of a more gracious age.

After Stanley’s death, on the eve of the millennium,  in accordance with his wishes, his land was given to the Essex Wildlife Trust to be a restricted access nature reserve, – ‘Coopers Wood’.



Stanley walking out of the tiny kitchen in his railway carriage home
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Bernard Cooper, Bread & Cheese Hill 1940s
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unknown, in Thundersley, with Adelaide in the foreground
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Stanley outside his railway carriage home
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Stanley Cooper as a young man in the 1930s
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The private road which led from Badgers Way to 'Birchlea' and Stanley's railway carriage home
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'Birchlea' with my Papillon dog, Henri. taken in 1997
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Stanley Clement Cooper collecting for the Essex Wildlife Trust Action Fund outside Benfleet Railway Station
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  • This is amazing!! My brother Robin came across this just this evening.

    Our dad, Eric Cooper, formerly known as Roger, is our dad who has six children (and seventeen grandchildren!) and Mona and Eric Cooper were our grandparents and Cheryl, our auntie!

    Many childhood summer holidays in the second half of the 1970’s were taken at Glen Rosa in Kiln Road and Grandma would teach me to dance and we would often visit Stan, Harold, and their other brother Bernard, Florence too early on!
    This is gold!

    Glad to bring back happy memories! Pam Bird-Gaines (editor)

    By Suzannah Ford , Neé Cooper (27/01/2024)
  • woops – just checked and Bernard died 6.5.13 which made him 107 … jackie

    By Jackie Cooper (19/12/2023)
  • Great Uncle Stanley was one of a few eccentric members of our family, living in the woods out of his ‘shed’ (which I did not realise was a railway carriage), his lovely VW campervan, and dancing around his stone circle on the solstices . He was very close to my dad, Derek, who died in October 1999 – in fact Stanley predicted that he would die within 100 days of my dad and he did. I didn’t fully appreciate his idiosyncratic lifestyle until after he had died when I decided to retrain from lawyer to Medical Herbalist.

    I was also very fond of Bernard – he died in 2010 at the age of 104. He was a real gentleman, a cartographer. He remembered being able to see across to London from Thundersley. We took Bernard to Cooper’s Wood in 2005 and I remember watching him easily climb over a fence at the age of 99. It is an honour to be related to them. Pamela if you would like to see more old pictures of them all, including the post office, I have some – I can scan and email if you would like to see them but I would not want to overload you – and by the way granddad’s family tree of the 1970’s dates us back to Judge Jeffreys (Stanley’s grandfather was a Jeffreys) – and you could see the family resemblance in granddad’s nose… Jackiex

    Dear Jackie, thank you for this fulsome comment. I was very close to Stanley and Bernard, and would be absolutely delighted to see more old photos, and thank you for that. To save flooding the system, I will be in touch on my aol email account, if you don’t mind. Kind Regards, Pam [Editor]

    By Jackie Cooper (19/12/2023)
  • What a gem – Stanley and Bernard were my great Uncles and I am so overwhelmed to learn more about my family that I will post again once I have taken it all in! My grandad was John aka Jack Cooper and his son, my father, Derek Cooper. My cousin Robert has just passed this to me, and I will be passing it on to my brother Kerrin and other cousins! Thank you so much, Jackie Cooper, a Medical Herbalist, Cumbria

    Thank you, Jackie, for your kind comments. I was very lucky to know Stanley and Bernard. Stanley talked about Jack often. Stanley would certainly have approved of your choice of career. He was very much into complementary therapies, and helped me no end when I was studying acupuncture and homoeopathy, many years ago. Regards, Pam [Editor]

    By Jackie Cooper (18/12/2023)
  • Definitely Florence! She became extremely hard of hearing and I clearly remember the trays of sand!

    By Susan Thomas (11/10/2021)
  • Dear Susan, So pleased you mentioned your Grandmother. Stanley used to talk about a lady he used to visit in Rayleigh and it sounds very much as if it was Florence. Stanley said she was quite hard of hearing in later years, and he told me that he developed a system of writing in fine damp sand on a tray to communicate with her. He must have been in his seventies when she passed away, and I remember him saying how much it had upset him. The shared interest in Harry Edwards would fit in as well, because Stanley used to visit the Arthur Findlay College in Stansted Mountfitchet, North Essex, whenever a workshop took his fancy. He had many friends who had esoteric interests – he used to belong to Hadleigh Library – and leave notes and his name and phone number in books that interested him – and he met many people that way. He was a very caring man, with a keen interest in life and a love of people. I am happy to have brought back some treasured memories!

    By Pamela Gaines (08/10/2021)
  • This is fascinating. I’m certain this must be the same Stanley Cooper who was a great friend and companion to my grandmother Florence Holt especially in her latter years. She lived for many years in Thundersley, later in Rayleigh, and died in 1978 aged 97. The names of Stanley’s brothers, his carpentry skills, the cream camper van and many other details ring true. I remember they both shared an interest in the spiritualist healer Harry Edwards. I have learnt so much more about Stanley from your article – had no idea about Coopers Wood!

    By Susan Thomas (06/10/2021)
  • My Mother, Mary Cottle, attended the San Toy dance school in 1952 – 1958.
    She was there with her foster sister Georgina Walden.
    My Mother would love to hear from anyone who attended during this time and would really love to see any photos of productions.

    By Rebecca (12/01/2021)
  • Hello Emma, thank you for getting in touch. I am sorry to hear about Lawrie. The Coopers certainly were an outstanding family, and I was so lucky to know them. Thank you for your kind comments about my article. Best Wishes, Pam

    By Pamela Gaines (19/11/2020)
  • Hello Robert, thank you for getting in touch. I remember Harold and his Grandson Glen from Birchlea. Glen passed away quite young, I think, in the late 1990s. After Harold died, Stanley purchased Birchlea, and let it for a time to two friends. Stanley always wanted it to be a private nature reserve, which is why it doesn’t show up on Essex Wildlife Trust’s main map – and if you apply to the Castle Point Group of Essex Wildlife Trust, I am sure they will arrange a visit. It is being well managed – coppiced where it needed it, and they have found rare acid grasslands on the site. Best Wishes, Pamela

    By Pamela Gaines (19/11/2020)
  • My sister and I attended San Toy dance school in 1947 when I was 5 years old my sister was nine, we had a wonderful time doing Pantomimes, garden parties, Southend Carnival every year with our Hawaii Float in grass skirts, fuzzy hair, and cocoa powdered faces, wonderful memories. Mona and her sister Clare ran the school in their house, just before the Chase. It would be nice to know if any one in our class remembers Linda and Marlene Mackie .

    By Linda Brotherton (15/11/2020)
  • Hello, I was extremely interested in your article. I wondered if you could shed any more light on Cooper’s Wood. I understand it was bequeathed to Essex Wildlife Trust by Stanley but I can’t find any more information. I have a horrible suspicion it has been developed as ‘Castle Point’. I visited once with my brother, Mum, Uncle and Aunty about 35 years ago and remember Birchlea and the caravan. Harold Cooper was my great grandfather and Lawrie, his son, my grandfather. Lawrie passed away in March 2020 and I have been keen to find out more about the area. I sincerely hope it hasn’t all been built on. I certainly have an eccentric family.
    Best wishes,

    Robert Trainer (son of Lynn Trainer nee Cooper)

    By Robert Trainer (10/08/2020)
  • What a wonderful article, thankyou. Harold Cooper was my great grandad, my Grandad Lawrence Cooper passed away 9th of March this year. It’s lovely to read about my grandad’s relatives, my grandad often told me stories with fond memories of his parents and uncles.

    By Emma Trainer (10/08/2020)
  • Thank you for posting this page. I danced at San Toy from 1966 to 1977. My name then was Debbie Russell. If there’s anyone who was part of San Toy during this time please contact me at debsjeffries@outlook.com . I look forward to hearing from you

    By Deborah Jeffries (27/04/2020)
  • I also remember Mona and daughter Cheryl. I attended ballet and tap from 1957 to 1964, did lots of shows including the Kingsway. Wish I could find some old photos.

    By Dulecia king (17/11/2019)
  • I remember Mona at the Santoy school as I went there in 1943-1958 & studied ballet & tap & singing with Galdys Barnes who lived in Southend & was the Santoy pianist. We staged christmas pantomines & performed many shows at the Kingsway Cinema Hadleigh run by Gus Keeling. Other members of our troupe were Shiela & Maureen Barwick & also Claire Leechman just 3 spring to mind. Happy days.

    By SHIRLEY RODDICK NEE COLE. (08/06/2019)
  • I can remember Mona and her sister running The San Toy School of Dance. As a young boy I went briefly to their school and did a show near one Christmas. Her surname was Cooper but Mona used the name Johnson at the Dance School. I also knew her son, Roger.

    By Brian Bellamy (28/05/2018)

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